Yesterday I saw this article by some nitwit named Erica Jong linked on a friends facebook page. The article suggested that Modern Woman, which I like to consider myself, are trapping themselves with choices they are making for their children, and parenting. Some of the choices include baby wearing, cloth diapering, and making your own baby food. While making my own baby food didn’t last long in my house, we still baby wear, and cloth diaper and I by no means see how I am trapping myself by doing these things.
What does being trapped mean anyways? Taking care of the child you made the choice to bring into the world? Being an active parent instead of shipping your child off for someone else to raise, and only using them as some kind of trophy or status symbol when it is convenient for the parent? Using the word trapped is nothing short of silly in my opinion.
You wear your baby, sleep with her and attune yourself totally to her needs. How you do this and also earn the money to keep her is rarely discussed. You are just assumed to be rich enough.
We baby wear, co-sleep, and make it a huge point to be in touch with our children, I always thought that was an attribute of being a parent, not attachment parenting. But then again, I guess that is just me. As for being rich enough to attachment parent, I see no difference between being your run of the mill parent, and the income levels involves.
We made the choice before having children that I would be a stay at home mother, of course I clearly work from home now, but our children are still first priority. You do not need to be rich to be a stay at home parent, or attachment parent. You just need to know how to manage money. If you are more concerned with your $60,000 SUV, and spa treatments, maybe parenthood may not be in your plans, for the time being of course.
Surely this prepares them better for life than stressed-out biological parents alone. Some of these stressed-out parents have come to loathe Dr. Sears and his wife and consider them condescending colonialists in love with noble savagery.
Personally, I have not read any of the Dr. Sears books, but I think no matter who is parenting, there will always be a level of stress, it comes with the territory, and it is all in how you deal with it rather than running away from stress in our lives. Of course my children have seen me stressed and frustrated, I am human. But it is not something they are constantly around day in and day out, nor is it something I think children should be dealing with at all. It is a parents responsibility to deal with this, not have their children become worried as well.
I couldn’t read much more after that. The whole article made my blood boil, as well as turned my stomach. Honestly, is this woman even a parent? Because it is pretty clear she is out of touch with the reality of having children!