Generation of Women?

I have noticed something slightly scary upon us. A whole generation that is nothing short of petrified of birth. As most other 20 somethings I am a member of social networking sites like myspace and facebook, but recently a relatively new one caught my eye. Cafe Mom! A website for mothers only, that focuses on mothering, parenting, and just really meeting and networking with other moms. Problem? The majority of the “Mothers” (I put mothers in quotes because you occasionally come across the 13 year old on summer break pretending to be 19 with 2 sets of triplets) on this website give out grossly inaccurate and outdated information to each other.
Examples?

VBAC’s aren’t safe (Which we know for healthy, low risk women without medical complications, they are)
Cereal at 2 months is the norm (No, it’s not, and no baby at 2 months old should be getting cereal by spoon and especially in a bottle)
If you don’t have an epidural you will regret it (When most women who have natural birth wouldn’t think of any other way!)
Home birth is dangerous and you and your baby will die (We all know the truth behind that so lets just shake our heads and move on.)

Shining examples of the people on here right?

So I, in another one of my advocacy and education binges have set out to try to educate at least some of the younger and more impressionable women and potential mothers on this site. Pregnant, Trying to get pregnant, young mothers with one, or two children at home, anyone really who will listen.
But in the mean time, you have the “veterans” who as shown above, give out the crap advice like it is gospel chiming in with their rude two cents, name calling, and overall mind your own business comments. Why? Because the truth is in their face and they can’t come back with anything else but snark.

I guess that is the end of my rant, per se.
But please, join me in helping to change the face of cafemom!
We need more crunchy moms!
We need more moms who think there is a serious birth crisis in this country!
We need more moms who will be outspoken like myself and stand up to these fountains of misinformation!

If you are interested in helping, please let me know.

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By: Chris and Bethany

I’m definitely interested! I’ve noticed the same trend and it makes me sad. My two natural home births have been the best experiences of my life. When I look back on those births and the relationship that I now have with those two children, it saddens me that I was not able to have that same experience with my first two babies. Do I love and adore them? Absolutely, but there is a bond that you cannot describe that happens between a mother and child when you have a birth experience that is without unnecessary medical interventions. I wish that every woman could go through child birth without fear and in a relaxed setting. It makes all the difference in the world.

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By: Danielle

Birth has turned into something that young women are just SO afraid of!E-mail me

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By: DoulaMomma

a mom local to me posted on a local eloop asking to hear from other moms who have considered VBAC or decided to just have another cesarean, as she is making up her mind whether to VBAC or not…for some reason, this is sitting very heavily with me – why wouldn’t she at least try to VBAC? I’ve made myself available to give her information – she has been in contact already…all I can do is make the information available.

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By: Sheridan

I am interested! I think that teaching the younger generation is key to changing birth!

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By: mommymichael

check out a group called Hypnobabies and Homebirthing – my group…i joined a due in february group back when i was awaiting little willem’s arrival…it was SO SO SO scary, so many moms on there were having their babies in december and january because they’re doctors either suggested it, or because they got tired of waiting for the baby and were “done” with being pregnant. listen. i “get” being “done” with pregnancy. i’ve been there twice, and my second was 9lbs… i get it. but for crying out loud, LET THE BABY GROW UNTIL IT’S TIME!!! why take them out so early? that’s so unfair to them!

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