Earlier in the year, March, I applied to be the Regional Coordinator of ICAN because everyone really knows how important this Organization and cause has been to me, as well as my family. I wanted to give back, take on a volunteer position where I can try and help more, reach out to more women, and give back since ICAN has done so much for me since February of 2008 when I started healing from the unnecesarean birth of my son.
I applied for the position, and was informed late last night that I was unanimously voted in by the ICAN board. I could not be happier, and in better spirits going into the VBAC birth we are hoping for now.
This pregnancy has been so different in so many ways than the experience I had with Camden. I was made to feel like I was sick, not pregnant, because the first thing they did was label me “high risk” which was completely unnecessary with Camden. I wish I had all the knowledge and support I do today before I got pregnant with him, because I know my experience would not have ended the way that it did.
Now, so many people in my life have stopped and said “well you have a beautiful healthy baby” of course I do, I love my son to death, he is the brightest, most loving, beautiful 16 month old little boy I have ever met, even when he is crushing my boobs, or pulling my hair, or even pouring cat food all over the floor just to play with the dishes.
But, the physical and emotional trauma that his birth caused will be with me forever.
For some women, having a healthy baby may be the only positive that comes out of a negative birth experience, and until you have physically been there, you may not realize how hurtful your “as long as he is healthy who cares how he got here” comments are.
Preparing for my upcoming birth has been so much more than just learning about VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) and getting baby things ready.
It has been a chance to heal.
Preparing not only physically, and mentally but emotionally.
I was not emotionally ready until the past couple days.
Now I know I can go into this birth, knowing I will have a beautiful, successful, uneventful, healthy, and safe VBAC. Not only for me, and Benjamin. But for my whole family.
Getting the news of being chosen for this position has just confirmed everything for me.
I hope that the ICAN board members can all iknow that, and know how much this means to me.
I love my ICAN sisters, I love ICAN, and I love all the women, friends and family that have been there for me through all of this journey, starting with the birth of Camden.
NOW BRING ON THE CONTRACTIONS!