Pinterest Post of the Week: Relationship

It says:

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, cause you think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect don’t exist, there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley

This couldn’t be more true. The surprise, stress, and realization of a third child we never planned put a strain on my marriage. Not to mention the fact that I am a giant ball of miserable bitch when I am pregnant.

I feel gross, ugly, fat, and don’t want anyone within a 50 mile radius of me. Literally. And I will be the first person to admit is because I am secure enough to know what my faults are in life. Nope, I am not perfect, and neither are you!

Over the past two months since our daughter joined our family, we are more in love that we have been since first dating over 4 years ago. We have instituted an earlier bed time so we can make time together every night before it is too late… We have gone out without the children, and overall kept our lines of adult communication more open than most parents do.

For a while, parenting, for the both of us, made us completely lose each other. It became a routine daily… Work, meals, home, chores, laundry, dinner, fire department obligations, or whatever else had to be done for the day… and then bed. Little communication, except around the children. We had went from being husband and wife, to only being Mom and Dad, and we totally neglected each other while trying to be super mom and super dad. Do you realize how many parents do this daily?

Take time to be husband and wife… Don’t feel bad when you need time alone, whether it is an overnight trip, or just a 3 hour meal and movie minus the kids. Relationships are like plants, they need water, and TLC. Give it!

And to close this, I want to give a huge XOXO to my husband who is not only the most amazing husband, but an incredibly father to our flock of kids. Here is to another 46 years together like the couple at dinner last night.

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By: Kristen Twitter: @BirthingKristen

Very, very sweet, Danielle. And I think that taking steps to make extra time for one another is so important, especially with a new baby in the house. I can only IMAGINE what we’ll have to do when #3 arrives!

(And thanks for being my Pinterest friend, btw. I’m still trying to figure it out, in between bouts of suckass pregnancy nausea. )

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By: Doreen Twitter: @deecampisi

You need to make not only couple time but me time too. Good job for making the effort to remember you are more than just mommy and daddy.

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By: chelsea Twitter: @parablematernal

can i ask, how you went about instituting an earlier bedtime? my dd is complaining about not getting enough sleep, but i’ll put her in bed (with a routine) at 8pm and she’ll be up at 11:30 still. a;sldkgja;lsdkgja;lksdjg;alkjsgd. always interested in how others do it, so if you don’t mind sharing, i’d love to know

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By: Danielle

Well it really started with skipping the afternoon nap for our oldest son, and then having dinner earlier than we were.
Once we were done with all of the dinner stuff, we started baths, and our bedtime routine. But mind you, these are children that
were staying up till 11-midnight before hand. So even if we have them asleep for 9, that is much earlier.

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By: chelsea Twitter: @parablematernal

i’d take 9 over 1130

some days she naps at school and we don’t get home until 5:30 or 6. those days, i’m tempted to sacrifice my healthy attitude and get some mcnuggets and call it a night.

thanks!

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