What Are Mean Moms Teaching Their Children?

Recently I have seen a rash of mean moms on twitter. Making fun of other mothers for everything from their looks, medical problems, and parenting choices, to things like their teeth, or god knows what else.

And I started to think about it from the point of view of a mother… if these mothers are openly insulting strangers on the internet with no care in the world, what kind of lessons are their children actually learning from their actions? Sure their kids probably aren’t sitting at the computer reading their twitter feed full of insults… but if this is how they act on the internet… how do they act in real life when they are with their children, or at the playground.

Do they openly insult other mothers in public, or is it the behind a computer screen mentality where they get big balls because they can try to be faceless on the internet.

But in reality, if women are taking part in these actions online, the repercussions will certainly filter over into real life, and then one day their kids will be those kids on the internet bullying people over facebook, or whatever new website craze there is by the time they hit high school. Then they will think OMG! I have no idea where my children learned this kind of behavior! Yeah ok!

Another question this whole topic makes me wonder is why… Why do these women feel the need to act like 15 year old mean girls on the computer in a sad attempt to bully, or make another mom feel bad about the choices she has made in parenting. No one is a perfect parent… not me, not you, and especially not them… so what motivates these actions?

Lastly… what does it accomplish? Wow! You can sit there and be a big bully behind a computer… is that some kind of accomplishment? Would your parents be proud of you?

I just don’t get it all.

What is your take on online Mom wars, and internet Mom bullies?

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By: Stephanie Twitter: @GreenSAHM

I’ve never understood the need to call people out on their parenting techniques, short of flat out abuse, and you don’t usually see that on the internet.

I do something someone doesn’t like as a parent and make mention of it online, discuss it with me if you like, but no name calling. I don’t put up with that from my kids, and I’m not going to put up with it from adults.

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By: Kathryn

I was a member of a popular baby site when I was pregnant and was awed by total “Mean Girls” atmosphere of the boards. The regulars bullied, taunted, and often followed members into other boards (after they had fled that particular board to try and escape a conversation that had gone bad) to harass them. Often this was for things as simple as what was in that members signature. They were very click-y and had all kinds of secret rules. If others didn’t follow them they were practically verbally assaulted. It was really awful. It makes me sad that people behave this way and I always wonder what they teach their children about how to treat others.
(it also made me sad that no one stood up for those who were being bullied)

I think that these bullies are really cowardly, and I expect that they wouldn’t behave that way in person. They hide behind their computers and feel like they have a license to do whatever they want knowing they will never be caught or confronted. I am sure that they use their internet bullying as an outlet for what must be a very unhappy existence. I truly believe that happy people with fulfilling lives do NOT do this kind of stuff.

One final thought. My mama always said that the true character of a person is revealed by what they do when no one else is watching. Something like, “what a person does in the dark reveals their truth.”

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