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What No One Tells You About Parenting
Now that our youngest has fully broken through into the “toddler” stage of life, I have come to realize there are so many things about parenting NO ONE ever tells you. I think for fear that people would simply stop reproducing altogether and the human race would die out. With all these realizations in the past two weeks, I asked my mother to book my reservation to the nut house for early summer next year after child #3 comes, because I am sure along with my cesarean recovery I am going to need a white padded room and some heavy medication.
Now don’t get me wrong. I love my children to death.
But these kids? These aren’t my kids… someone has taken the boys I have worked so hard raising and replaced them with… pods? Aliens? Test subjects? You get the picture… my children have mysteriously disappeared.
And just for the record, I would like MY kids back.
Last night I hit my breaking point… I became that Mom when my husband and I were attempting to enjoy dinner with the children. Out in a decently nice restaurant. Someplace we have gone with the children on several occasions before this night. Service was good, until my food came and that was the first thing that annoyed me. My meal sucked, and in the end, even after complaining about it, they did nothing for us. We will not be back.
But once the children ate, which was rather quickly because we requested their food come out before ours, they started acting like they had absolutely no kind of home training at all. My oldest decided he wanted to take up camp under the table. Seriously? What child?!? Well needless to say, he main motive with that move was to scope out all the nasty old GUM people had stuck under the table over the course of time. Totally gross and that is where my blood pressure started to rise. I got him back up onto the seat. Then he refused to eat. That’s fine… don’t ask me for a “snack” when we get home…
All while our youngest with one of the nick names Chunk continued to scarf down food. He is a great eater, and once he is in high school I have no question that he will eat us out of house and home. But the second he was finished he decided to throw food on the floor. Something else I am totally mortified of. I quickly picked it all up, and took the rest of the food he had in front of him away. Cue meltdown…
It was almost like he looked at me and said “You either let me wreak havoc, or I am not going to let you eat.”
Of course… it continued, even after my half assed meal got there. So I took him outside letting my husband enjoy his meal which they clearly did not screw up.
All the while I was getting glares from the table across from me. I knew exactly what those glares meant too. From a table of older women that probably never had a child. They were judging… I could tell… as they sucked down their cocktails and continued their girls night out.
Finally I got my youngest calm and rational enough where I thought he would let me at least eat the one thing on my plate I really shouldn’t have had. A baked potato. I needed to eat something, I was starving and Fetus #3 was pissed I wasn’t feeding him/her.
I had my food wrapped to go, like I am actually going to eat it. Reality? The dogs will probably have a gourmet meal today sometime, while I bitch about the price I paid for dog food.
I just can’t win sometimes, and this is where I say, I just want one night where I can go out to eat. When I can have a good meal that they don’t completely screw up… that is perfect from start to finish, without children acting like those hooligans from Talladega Nights.
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I think u should stop reproducing now! Clearly you don’t know the difference
Between children and animals. Trained children? Ha. I can see disciplined children but trained? You don’t deserve to be a mother If you cannot handle the harder parts of the JOB. Boohoo for you your kids acted up in a restraunt. Stfu you poor excuse go a mother
“Brenda” – First off, if I want 10 more kids, I will have them, so lets get that straight right off the bat. I CAN handle my children, which is why like ANY responsible parent, I defused the situation by LEAVING the dining area. PERIOD. My website is about the REAL parts of parenting… The good, the bad, and the ugly, and if you don’t like it… the door is that way… don’t let it hit you in the ass on your way out! ——–>
I think “Brenda” is all jacked up on Mountain Dew, maybe you should go spider monkey on her ass?
Awesome post, breed at will.
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Why didn’t you tell them that the meal sucked and have them bring you something else or remake the food? I have never had bad food in a place and said something about it that they didn’t make it right. Even Taco Bell will fix a screwed up order.
haha…I love that your blog has a door.
We haven’t hit this stage yet, but I think I know what’s coming. It’s a disservice to all new mothers to try to gloss over the bad days and make it seem like it’s all shiny, happy bliss.
I appreciate the candid post and all it’s unshiny, unhappy truth.
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It can be difficult to deal with toddlers and being pregnant. You just keep doing what you did in this situation and if possible plan a evening or two to go out with just your husband. The boys will eventually get what you are trying to do. It takes alot of patience and I remember just ordering to go many times when my oldest was just too much and it was easier to eat at home.
I did tell them the meal sucked. As we were getting ready to leave. We did not get a discount on the check, despite the fact that the only thing I ate on my plate was the side that came with it. Bad customer service IMO, and because of that, I will never go back.
Great post. I think all of us have been there and get it. Every loving parent reaches a breaking point at times (I sometimes think the kids call a strategy meeting and decide when they’ll all push us to the utmost) Don’t worry about Brenda, just let her enjoy her childless night out with the girls, glaring from the next table over at us parents who could use a little more patience & understanding, and, yes, a space to vent when that patience and understanding is lacking for a short while
Brenda sounds like a 18yr old who doesn’t do anything more than babysit. Don’t feed the trolls.
While you were having your dinner melt down, I was out shopping at Whole Foods (first time in a long time). I was with a friend who has two kids, yeah counting mine that’s 5 all together. We must have been insane.
My middle son had a meltdown as soon as we picked out our cart (I still have no idea why, most likely because he was tired.) And her little boy had a major meltdown as well.
I walked in the store and immediately I see the looks, some knowing and compassionate, others with disgust and annoyance. WHO THE FUCK CARES??? Not me, I will not sit back at home and order all my groceries online because my kids *might* (more like probably) have a melt down. Trust me, if I had someone to watch my kids I’d take the moment for myself. Doesn’t always happen that way.
I looked at my friend and loudly proclaimed, “YES. Hi hello. I am THAT mom!!” Then looked people in the eye, daring them to either offer to help, or to back the hell away. That took care of the disgusted glares (because really, it’s not like they *WERE* going to offer to help), and made me feel better.
Because really, kids will be kids. Even if they’re disciplined, they will have their moments. They’ll be tired, or over stimulated, or just plain ready to play and not sit still any more.
As a parent, I firmly believe that sometimes it’s about survival.
I wasn’t about to walk back out of the store, just because my kid was screaming. For one, I desperately needed food if we were going to eat dinner. And two, I don’t want them learning that just because they throw a fit means that we will leave. Life’s tough, but I’m tougher.
I think you handled it well. You took your screaming child from the situation because you understand that other people want to have a peaceful meal too. I applaud you, and I’d do the same in that situation. What more can you do?
In the end for me, mine calmed down because he was flabbergast by the ferocity of the other little boy’s meltdown. Worked out for me. At which point, I offered to my friend for me to take her little boy in my cart. I could see she was beyond frustrated (like a step away from being physical). I took the car keys, checked my groceries out and headed to the car.
We’ve got to stick together as moms, not tear each other down (BRENDA – if you even ARE a mother).
And a lovely lady who was parked near us, who upon seeing my friend’s son screaming, offered to take my cart back. Stating that she was in the same boat and left her kids with her husband just to get away from it all. lol
Brenda- Who in the hell shit in your Cheerios this morning? 1) EVERY mother is entitled to vent about her children, it comes with the job description. And if she gets pounced on by some mama bear wanna-be every time she does, she’s BOUND to go bizirk.
2) She CLEARLY did know how to handle her children. She took care of the situation quickly and handled it perfectly. The point of her post was to vent…oh, but wait, venting means you shouldn’t reproduce.
3) Danielle is pregnant. Let me repeat that for your ignorant brain- Danielle is pregnant. As a mom of an almost 4 year old, a 2 1/2 year old and who also happens to be nearly 35 weeks pregnant, I can totally sympathize with her. Pregnancy causes hormones to go out the roof and emotions to fly around like crazed vultures looking for a dead animal to feast on. Something that might merely slightly tick off a non-preggo such as a shit meal, is BOUND to really upset a pregnant woman.
There’s hubby with a meal that didn’t get messed up. Here are her kids- one not eating his perfectly cooked meal, but rather under the table peeling nastified gum off the bottom of it and the second, while granted he scarfed down most of his food, decided he wanted to throw his perfectly cooked meal on the floor. Then, of course, there’s Danielle. What’s she doing “eating for two” and she’s got not only got the shit meal, but also has old farty-ass presumptuous women staring her down. Umm, can you say emotional overload?
You CLEARLY have not been reading Momotics for very long. Danielle’s blog is one about the amazing things of parenthood and also one about the crappy things that CAN come with it (and yes, oh perfect one, crappy things do come with it).
It must be really nice to be as perfect as Ms. Brenda. Can you send us your blog link filled with all the perfections which are you and your family? I must read it, because if I don’t, I fear I might find myself venting one day and have you whispering in my ear to stop producing children, and I’m so hormonal and emotional these days, I just don’t think I can handle such judgements.
Must be nice to be so perfect. Let me guess, no stretch marks at all during your pregnancies?
Excuse me while I go puke from your post.
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Last weekend I braved my favorite Chinese place alone with my 4 kids. I was seriously afraid, lol. You never know how kids will act when dining out. I stock my bag with healthy snacks & if I’m desperate I bring the Nintendo DS. I have been known to decide it’s a bad idea after ordering drinks, and then getting up & leaving before it gets really bad. Sometimes it’s not worth the hassle, but sometimes I just don’t care. If people don’t want to be bothered by unruly children when they eat, they should eat at home. Sometimes adults spend an entire meal talking loudly on their cell phone and nobody ever gives them shit.
I totally agree with Brenda! If you cannot handle the children you have why would you bother having a third? In my opinion you only enjoy your children when they are sleeping, other wise you complain and bitch about them 24/7! 10 more children..Really???Ha!I feel bad for all of them! You should seriously consider getting your tubes tied after..as you put it “FETUS” #3 is born into your horrible mothering world.. I am a mother of 3 myself and DO NOT agree with you at all! Maybe you should go check yourself in somewhere and have your head examined for the reasons cosisting of … Why do I hate my children?? Why although I can’t stand the two I have, I still want more? You need to really think about what you say! And for all these blog followers who are defending you..yall need your heads checked to.. I will pray for your two children and for baby..not fetus #3..
God Bless Them & god help you..
First off “Jackie” from Stratford, I do not hate my children, and I can handle them perfectly fine. I highly doubt you have any children if you take the time to leave such an idiotic comment. I frankly don’t give a rats ass if you “agree” with me or not, that is not going to make any difference to me at all. Keep your prayers, clearly you need then more than I do!
Saying “God bless” at the end just pisses me off. How can you say what you said above, then “God bless” at the end. As if you really care or pray. If you did, you wouldn’t have said the above to begin with. Love your neighbor LIKE YOU LOVE YOURSELF.
Just another one of those holy rollers that only care about themselves… Sunday Christians… only when they want to be.
Well, Danielle.. I actually do have children and I love them all dearly and believe me I have had my share of melt downs, but they never drove me to say that I was going to check myself into a looney bin!If you don’t want a scene in a restaurant than don’t bring your children.Kid’s will be kid’s,especially toddlers. You are writing like they are old enough to realize that they are being obsurd or acting in such a way that is embarrassing to you.If you don’t want to “take home” your food or have to leave the dining area,then leave the kids at home! Honey I definitely DO NOT need the prayers more than you do! I have not once referred to any of my children as a FETUS(& quite frankly you sounded like an abortion doctor, in the sentence referring to baby #3) or complained that they have “disappeared” when they act out or have a temper tantrum.Children learn what they live!!!! I have read a lot of your blogs and some of them are very good! But bashing your babies is not a good look..for any mother!
Agreed. I’m by no means perfect, but it’s annoying when others pretend to be.
Jackie, clearly you do not know me, and don’t read my blog very much. Many of my posts are written with something called sarcasm, and humor. Saying my children are going to land me in a mental hospital is written as tongue in cheek humor. As for calling my third child fetus #3, is because we have not picked a name, or found out what we are having and until that time, this child, who has also been called “Elwood #3″ on several occasions will be referred to as Fetus #3. Too bad so sad.
Nor did my children make a “scene” anywhere. Apparently you have read into a humorous Mom blog post far more than anyone else has. If you think this is bad, you should read some of the other Mom blogs out there. You might as well just call child services on “Vodka Mom” or some of the other sarcastic websites out there.
I think it’s healthy to admit when our kids are driving us insane. My kids drive me up a wall frequently, it’s how I act and treat them in the moment that defines as a parent. I don’t beat them, or treat them any less than they deserve to be treated. But they do, and will, drive me insane.
I don’t see anything wrong with admitting our faults.
To add to that: but Danielle will be judged by that because she writes a blog, and not everybody is going to agree with her.
Can’t win them all girl.
No holy roller or sunday christian here! I have my faith and what I believe in! Tough cookies if you dislike what I have written! Love my neighbor? How would you like me to do that when the way Danielle speaks about her children is just wrong! I understand that life can be difficult, but she has chosen this and should really just grin and bear it!
I do grin and bear it… Day in, and day out. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I could be like any of those parents that ship their kids off to daycare all day long and go to work, but I don’t because I LOVE my children, and this is what I chose. As for how I “talk” about my children, if you do not like my humor, or my posts, don’t come here and read. It is pretty simple. No one is forcing you to take the time out of your day to come to my website and read. No rocket science.
I don’t know why you would take so much time to read someone you can’t “stand” their parenting… Doesn’t make sense.
Because you don’t know Danielle. All you’ve done is read her blog and judged her.
I as well am a stay at home mother!I was browsing blogs which I often do in my down time and I came across yours. It struck a nerve and I replied to it! And your right I do not know danielle I have only read blogs. I just wanted to state my opinion!
And don’t feel bad when your opinion is knocked down. And if you don’t care for humor blogs… maybe you should skip mine, because I use a lot of humor in mine. Do you think I would have gone through, not one.. but TWO and a THIRD c-section if I hated my kids? A major surgery I want NO part of, one that has emotionally scarred me for life? I mean come on… get real!
“Really??? Ha!I feel bad for all of them! You should seriously consider getting your tubes tied after..as you put it “FETUS” #3 is born into your horrible mothering world”
“I was browsing blogs which I often do in my down time and I came across yours. It struck a nerve and I replied to it!”
In other words, I was just passing through and wanted to be a bitch.
not being a bitch, but bad mothers deserve negative comments on their very public blogs! I dont feel bad about your sad little attempt to knock my comments! you can continue to say it’s a humor blog, or a sarcastic blog..but it clearly is not! You only try to play it off like it is when someone says somethung you don’t like!
I don’t need to pretend my blog is anything… I know what my writing is, and so do the people who frequently read here. I could go back for months and months and pull up sarcastic and humorous posts, including my post from earlier this week “Case of the Mondays”… The Toddler Lollipop post… Late night twitter rant fail. I could go on and on.
Nor do you know anything about my mothering. But Jackie, it was fun playing… I hope you have a great night!
Not anything to do with the actual post, but your comment saying “I could be like any of those parents that ship their kids off to daycare all day long and go to work, but I don’t because I LOVE my children” is quite offensive. I don’t know if it’s how you meant it, but it implies that parents that do have to work, and thus take their children to daycare, don’t love their children. Yes, there are parents who dump their children in daycare all day just to be rid of them (even if they don’t work), but as a early childhood educator I can say these are NOT the majority.
I am not referring to the parents who NEED to work. I am referring to the parents who CHOOSE to do that.
We are a family that does not NEED a second income, which is where my comment originated. I think anyone who reads here on a regular basis should know that, and how I feel about the subject in general already.
Even if the family does not NEED a second income, if both parents enjoy their job and get fulfillment from it, it doesn’t mean that they do not love their children.
No, that is not what I implied at all. I was being told I hate my children. Don’t you think if I hated my children so much I wouldn’t make the CHOICE to sit at home with them all day? I clearly wouldn’t… that was my point. Get over yourself!
Danielle, I understand what you mean about being a SAHM. It is always nice to have a second income, but for those of us who can make it work to be SAHMs we give up that second income in order to raise our children full time. Of course, there are people who HAVE to work, but there are many who DON’T have to work who still ship their kids off or don’t make the sacrifice to stay home. Staying home is hard work!! Kristy, I don’t think she was saying anything like working parents don’t love their children. She was showing how she has made a sacrifice, one she is happy to do, to be home and RAISE her children. She is hands on 24-7.
I wasn’t attacking you here, and I was not saying you hate your children. Nothing to get snarky and defensive about. I wouldn’t say such a thing. I was merely pointing out that you were in turn accusing other people of the very same thing. Actually, I was pointing out that it sounded like you were accusing others of that, and did state that I didn’t actually know what you meant by it, simply that that is what your statement implied.
I wasn’t accusing anyone of anything. I was defending my point.
I was not insulting anyone, Maybe things in England are different, but if I had a dime for every person I knew in this local area who shipped their kids off during the day because they don’t want to be bothered with them, it would be a full time second income. That is just how it is in this area.
Wow. Since when are parents unable to vent about their kids? I am so confused about the reactions this post has gotten.
Brenda, Jackie, & Stacey- When a friend of yours vents about the rough day they’re having with their kids, do you put them down? Do you criticize them and tell them you’re no longer going to listen to them?
The difference between Danielle and A LOT of moms out there is that she blogs about her daily events (and more).
I am truly baffled by the reactions of the some of the women on here, and as I stated in a response to Brenda- it must be so nice to be the perfect parent who doesn’t ever vent about their kids. I love my kids…immensely. Everything my husband and I do is for our children, but just like people do to each other- because we’re all different- my kids rub me the wrong way at times.
Maybe I got no sleep the night before (34 weeks pregnant will do that to ya) or maybe they slept bad. Maybe I’m stressed out about the big Anatomy test I’ve got in a few days. Maybe I’m in a perfectly wonderful mood and the kids do something outrageous and BAM! I need to vent. We’re human and anyone that calls themselves a mother SHOULD know you’ve got your good days and your bad days…but we love our kids regardless.
The three women on here need to come down off their high horses. Danielle’s kids don’t need your pity and she doesn’t need some bitches telling her she doesn’t love her kids.
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It sure must be nice to be a Stepford Wife. Or maybe these ladies are the type that just let their kids be terrors in public and just chalk it up to “well, they’re young” or “they’re just kids.”
I thought it was common knowledge that people need to vent. We’re actually lucky to be able to do so in such an arena and, usually, have people sympathize and say they’ve been there too. I thought it was common sense that if you didn’t sympathize that you just mosey along and find a site that you do agree with instead of bashing on those who admit that they need GASP! a break sometimes.
Hang in there, Danielle. MOST of us have been there.
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I am utterly confused by the judgmental, snarky comments! Children are overwhelming and Danielle is just posting a scenario in which a lot of us mothers have been in. She is just speaking about what so many of us go through, at times. It doesn’t mean we love our children any less but, for goodness sake, let her be human!
WOW, the nerve of some people, and claiming to be Christians at that!!
I am sorry you had such a rough dinner. I for one enjoyed your post. It was well timed as well, since I am reading this after coming home from a very similar dinner. It was Chick-Fil-A night for my 5 year old son’s school. It was packed, and insane. My 5 year old was too busy playing with his friends to actually listen to me, and my 3 year old who doesn’t like crowds was whining the whole time. I thought my head would explode. I sent the kids to their rooms for some quiet time before bed, and now I am reading this. Sooooo glad to see that I am not the only one who occasionally loses my mind because of my kids. That doesn’t make me or anybody else a bad mother, it just makes us human.
Don’t let anybody else get you down. Weather they want to admit it or not, they have been there as well, they probably just didn’t handle it as well as you did, so they are ashamed to admit it.
I’m kind of shocked at the number of women who apparently don’t remember being pregnant with older children. Wow. This past Sunday I was PISSED – because my hubby took a nap and then woke up the baby and slept through it – so I had to skip lunch and entertain our 16 month old when I was STARVING and TIRED. I was beyond livid. I ate some food, my FETUS calmed down (and yeah, people, that thing growing in my belly is called a FETUS, it doesn’t mean I don’t love it or want it, it is a medical term and also kind of a funny word!) and I was just fine, angry bear appeased and enjoyed the evening with my family.
We went to Cracker Barrel last THursday – our 16 month old was PERFECT, no kidding. Such an enjoyable meal! Then a lady sitting next to us interrupted our conversation to tell us how proud we should be of ourselves and our obviously superior parenting skills because our child was SO WELL BEHAVED. She was beside herself over our SUPER PARENTED WELL BEHAVED child. I just laughed, said Thank you and let her know – it was a very happy coincidence. Case in point, afterwards we went grocery shopping and he had a complete and total meltdown.
Vent away, woman, and keep crucifying these stupid trolls, they obviously are complete perfection (and their children probably hate them!)
Rachael, our children are THOSE children that typically get those compliments, especially from the older couples everyplace we go. Which was another one of the reasons this specific incident sent me over the edge! Like I said, it was like our children were switched with POD people!!
Danielle, take a deep breath and let it go. You don’t need to let negative trash get you down, especially now of all times (what with being pregnant and all). This is actually the first time I’ve read your blog (I am popping over from the babble link) but I got it… it is CLEAR to any sane human that you love your kids. Heck, you started the blinking post by saying that you do! My daughter is 4 and normally really well behaved, so of course the day I went to meet up with some old friends from highschool for lunch that I haven’t seen in a decade she decided to crawl under the table. It happens to us all! I am now days away from birthing daughter#2 and a few weeks ago I told my husband I just wanted to run away. Of course, I didn’t *really* mean it but sometimes it is tough being a mom (especially whilst pregnant and super hormonal) and it helps to vent. I just wanted to send some positivity your way!
Wow, I thought I had a hater-commenter or two, now and then, sometimes, but you win it hands-down! 
Dining out with kids (or, you know, just LIVING with them!) is hard. Kudos to you for having a third! I will only have a third if my husband becomes the SAH-parent because otherwise I will end up in the loony bin, if I am not there already.
As for the under-the-table stuff, sometimes I let my 2-yr-old do that because it’s good for his immune system (um, right? please?), it keeps him occupied, and it lets me eat and talk. Plus he’s feral.
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This is my first time here. I remember when I was pregnant with a four- and six-year-old. I was so frustrated I told them I was going to run away from home! They knew by the way I said it that I was NOT leaving them. I never got sleep. Someone ate the last of the cheese and I bawled. I was nauseous for nine months and threw up seven times after dinner some nights. Yes, I ate after each throw up. I was starving all the time. It was just horrendous. I can tell you I HATE being pregnant, but loved my children from the moment I knew of them until now–42, 40, and 35 years late. My friends and I groused about the children. I had three and my best friend had four. We made quite a splash when we entered any business, restaurant, or park. These objectors are just plain silly. Just go away and let the adults play now.
Oh, wow. I love this post. It’s funny and true! I’m sorry about the responses – this is enough to make me hope my blog NEVER gets popular, because I am not pregnant, have only one child (love him to pieces, totally exhausted by him), and yet … I can snark! As my mother always says, “We are part of the ‘Bitch & Whine School of Enlightenment’” – which is to say, being able to snark, joke, and whine about things makes us feel better, and makes us better people!
Also, @notlikeacat, I might have you quote you on that “he’s feral” line. That is so wonderful! Love.
Bookmarking your blog. Got here through ChildWild. Thanks!
I can completely relate and if other moms have never had a night out with their kids where that happened, they are probably lying or their kids have had their spirit broken.
When you’re pregnant food has to come out right on time and it must be just right. Nobody but a pregnant woman understands this. I’m right with you and your children will eventually returned to you!
Danielle, I liked your post – our loving little angels can drive us all batty sometimes! But, I find you responses to the comments to be aggressive and, for the most part, rude and unkind. So what if people have differing opinions from you on child rearing or if you get a few negative comments. Isn’t that okay? Relax a little and take the good with the bad! I suspect that it’s an unavoidable part of blogging! Good luck with your upcoming arrival of a new little one!
@Passerby, If you stick around, you can certainly see why I am defensive and rude when I get comments of that nature
First off, let me state I am not an avid or constant reader of this blog or any for that matter, so my opinion can either be considered extremely biased due to the lack of familiarity or completely non-biased, seeing as how I have no preexisting knowledge of anything said. Furthermore, it’s important to divulge I only found this blog upon googling “36 weeks pregnant and having second thoughts,” which is in all honesty exactly the case in which I’m in. I unexpectedly got pregnant a month after my 21 birthday, after a one night stand while also cheating on my on again off again admittedly scummy gambling addicted boyfriend. Read into that as much as you’d like, because you’d probably be right. But for those who are appreciatively nonjudgemental, i’ll try and admit all my immature decisions via possibly mature true account.21, finally able to LEGALLY drink, which wasn’t an obstacle either way but still I took advantage of either way. Heavily. Employed as a stripper, in it’s nonglorified term, no savings, as promiscuous as you can expect any exceptionally attractive 21 year old to be with as i previously stated a sad excuse for an example of a “relationship”. I had a great up-bringing, I guess I just happen to be the black sheep of the family. In any case, hopefully I come off as self-aware, realizing this is no ideal situation, but attempting to accept my mistakes and responsibilities and not choosing abortion or adoption and learning from my mistakes. Which brings me to my point of the aforementioned googling. Just when I thought I was making the wrong decision by attending parenting classes and religiously attending doctors appointments and vitamin and antibiotic regiments in some silly attempt to delude myself into thinking I could somehow be a suitable caretaker for anyone, let alone a child, adoption was looking like an emotional relief, until I found this blog. Understandably I’m no parent, but without the admittance of how real parents feel at their utmost moment of inferiority is probably the only thing that gives young inexperienced irresponsible girls like myself the confidence to believe that it’s in my own will power to overcome the obstacles I so absentmindedly handed myself, and that if even the most experienced mother can feel as if she’s being temporarily defeated, then maybe the securities
Also p.s lol, sorry about the double posting, and the lack of consistency. I’m not as thorough at proofreading as I am at expressing my opinion. Hopefully though, you got the message. Have a great day:)
Oh, honey. I am so sorry. It’s unbelievable the people who think they are perfect. I’ve wanted to kiss Al Gore some days for inventing the internet just so that I could vent about these children of mine. Children who are amazing, smart, loving, well-mannered but who have been known on occasion to act like schizophrenic monkeys on meth. For real. It’s happened to the best of us. And any parent who says it hasn’t happened to them is either lying or on WAY better meds than my dr will give me.
Hang in there. I won’t say it gets better…but it does get different. And lots and lots of it is good. Better than good. But I suspect you already know that. God bless you (for real!).
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Good for you girl (Danielle) – I am also not an avid reader of your blog, however, this post made me smile. I read every one of your comments and I am glad I’m not the only mother out there that has bad days! No matter where you go – someone will have a way to put you down. It’s pathetic that women will come on here and try to sound like they are perfect mothers – when they are probably the ones beating their children at the end of the day! In a post like this – it’s CLEAR that any REAL MOTHER would react or rather, have the same thoughts you did in your situation!
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