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When Are You Having #3?
Lately as Ben our youngest is over a year old, in fact, 14 months old over the weekend, I am starting to get questions from friends of our family inquiring when we are going to start thinking about having our third child. Even though I got pregnant with Benjamin when our oldest Camden was barely 9 months old, it is certainly not something I am going to be doing over!
After Ben was born, and the tough recovery I had, we decided it would be another 2-5 years before we even thought about adding another child to the mix. Not just because of money, or wanting to give as much attention to our children as we can, but also for our sanity. I got all the warnings and horror stories of having children close together after I got pregnant with Ben. Like people though I would just drop everything, and run out for an abortion. Um, no.
But I think this weekend was a clear message of why we shouldn’t have another quite yet.
When having our normal Sunday dinner at my parents house, we of course took the kids in the pool since I swear we are now living in HELL it has been so hot here. After Camden, our toddler got out of the pool, he stripped his diaper off which is typical for him. All of a sudden I hear my husband cracking up, and my Dad promptly saying “I am NOT cleaning that up!“ I look over and Camden is bending over, pooping on my parents lawn in the area that their Chihuahua Spike typically does his business. Apparently Camden took note and decided to do his business there too.
I couldn’t stop laughing, but thinking to myself… Well I guess this is what parenting, potty training, and little boys are all about. Quickly I thought to myself, between his constant comedy, and Ben’s new found freedoms. I think 2-5 years (which now is 1-4 years) will still be way too soon to be adding another baby Elwood to our bunch.
Moral of the story? People should stop asking us when we are going to start trying for baby #3.
We certainly would love to add another, or a little girl, but when the time is right.
With Wills promotion, two new classes coming up, applying for paid fire departments..
With my working full time from home, job developments, and business deals…
We just don’t have any extra time for more kids. It simply wouldn’t be fair to any of them!
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We haven’t received any “when are you having #3?” questions, but have gotten a few, “are you guys done now?” comments (equally annoying, and somewhat insulting).
If we do indeed decide on #3, we want to wait until Hannah is at least 2 years old. Hannah has been a handful — well, 2 kids in general is a handful — so we are not in any rush.
Also, we are very busy with our business, hopefully getting it off the ground soon. We aren’t even sure exactly when/where we are moving (hopefully soon), so now is definitely not the right time. I am too excited and optimistic about what the future will bring, and enjoying not being pregnant or TTC. There will be room for a third child when the time is right.
And you’re right, it wouldn’t be fair to the kids.
My mom had 3 and raised 4 – all girls. One was an adopted cousin. When my mom used to get asked by others when she was having her next her standard answer was always “you catch up to me, then we will have our next together.”
You’re lucky – nobody in our family has any interest in us having a 3rd. They think 2 is plenty, and can’t understand why we haven’t been sterilized yet.
Well… maybe I am.
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It is mostly our friends… I think that my mother would keel over and have a massive heart attack if we had another… LOL
I totally understand your logic! I only have one so far and she is only seven months old. I would love another but I really want to wait another year at least. Your post makes me think that I would still like to wait. If the good Lord blesses us with another baby, though, I won’t complain! It just won’t be in my plan.
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The pooping on the lawn story is priceless! But, seriously, have a third when you guys are ready!
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Bless you for even considering having a third. I knew while I was pregnant with my second that two was plenty for me and the last two years have definitely confirmed that!
I don’t mind the occasional, genuinely curious questions about our reproductive plans, but the people who INFORM us about our family plans are cruising for a punch in the nose. When our youngest was about 6 months old, we took her to party of J’s family. While we were there my mother-in-law’s best friend, completely serious, said, “Hey, you guys have your boy, you have your girl, now you just need to have your ‘oops!’ baby.” She was definitely not kidding. And this was coming from a woman who only ever had one kid herself!
Ha! I’m holding out hope that little girls don’t do this sort of thing. I’m sure you’re hoping the same thing right about now 
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